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"A little information's not too much to give. We've got to tell lovers how to love and let live," sang the lyrics of Olivia Newton-John's 1980's safe sex anthem called "Love and Let Live..The message of the song is still really important for lovers to understand. It's imperative that you inform your boyfriend or girlfriend of several things before things get intimate.
The Status of Your Latest STD Test
If you have had sex in the past, you should always get an STD test before you engage in intercourse or even oral sex with a new partner. Luckily, free STD testing is available to people of all ages. Be sure to get tested and request that your partner do the same. Never have sex with someone who won't get tested and share the results of that testing to you. It's important to protect you and your partner.
Any Risky Behaviors from the Past
Even if you currently aren't doing dangerous things, if you have engaged in risky behaviors in the past, you should disclose that information to someone before the two of you become lovers. Whether it was sharing needles with someone while doing drugs or having unprotected sex with someone who had HIV, any seriously risky behavior should be shared up front before intimacy. This can be a good way to segue into discussing the importance of using condoms and maybe even another form of birth control as well.
Traumas and Past Experiences
Sadly, sexual assaults are far too common. If you have had any sexual trauma in the past, be sure to share that before being intimate with someone. That will empower your partner to be sensitive to things that may hurt you or trigger bad memories. You should also both discuss your preferences and desires. Having a frank discussion about the past and how it has affected who you are today can be scary territory, but it will ultimately make the experience that much more special because it helps you build a higher level of trust.
Finally, no matter how difficult the idea of the conversation is, it would not be more difficult than telling your lover potentially devastating news down the line. If you keep information from potential lovers, you are betraying them as well as yourself. Be up front about the above things before intimacy, and you will find that the experience is better for both of you. Click here for more information about free STD testing.
Share16 December 2015
